How to DEAL with rejection and ENJOY life!
This article is dedicated to the many rejections I faced in my career. Each of a different color and each teaching me some valuable new lessons.
Back in 2018 when I left my job within one week and going through depression, I realized life is much more than just a single breakdown. Today when I look back in retrospect, I am thankful for that phase without that I would have done nothing, Today I work with some big MNC like Amazon, Flipkart, google as a freelancer.
Right now if someone asks if what if you face rejection today?
I can give a detailed answer to it and this article is the sum of all the psychology fact plus own experience.
How boring our life would be if we never get rejected. If we never get rejected, it may in fact mean that we are playing in a small field. We are not taking any chances outside of the comfort zone.
What is rejection anyway?
Let us first try to understand what is rejection actually and its different shades. See rejection is different for everyone i.e.
will I get selected for the team?
Will I get shortlisted by the company?
will I get the right job?
what happens if my article gets rejected?
rejection is not something youngsters are worried about, it looms large in the work environment too.
But the most successful people you know have had to go through rejection multiple times in their lives, who you think was born leader probably got rejected many times before he landed the right job. Take the example of Best-selling Author J. K. Rowling.
Today we are going to talk about different shaded of rejection and key learning from various sources.
Anticipating rejection —
when you face rejection what will you do?
The first step is to anticipate rejection even before you are hit by it. NO, you should not be diffident and act as if you stand no chances of making it through. But in the back of your head, you should be ready to accept rejection.
Don’t confuse the rejection with your persona. What They rejected? Your idea. Your CV, your story? NOT YOU.
BE ready to face rejection and don’t let it destroy your self-belief. when face rejection, stop and think. Is it worth pursuing the same plan, the same path or is it time to explore a less-traveled path? should you try out a new journey plan as a way of bounce back?
Multiple rejections do not always mean that the road is closed. There is always a small lane that can open up to take you to your new destination.
Do you curse your luck?
What if you take on a role where you feel you might get rejected, remember that you have been selected because you are supposed to have the taste of the bottom layer.
Never despair, even if the task assigned to you has a high chance of rejection. Don’t curse your luck, but use the fear of failure to explore new avenues and untested approaches.
Rejection from the key person
what does it take for a top artist to face an almost empty auditorium, yet performed his potential with the same energy?
See rejection can attack us from anywhere, early in career or later and rejection can be in various forms. Getting fired becomes your work is not appreciated. No call back from the agent. Or a tiny audience in the auditorium.
Remember a thin audience does not reject you. They are there to appreciate your performance, you will do a disservice to your responsibility if you reject the thin audience. You should embrace them as if they are the most important people in the world.
perform as if you are facing a full house, and you may not well get an unexpected gift
In the TEDx video by Guy Winch, he shared seven steps to understand rejection
- Pay attention to emotional pain.
2. Redirect your gut traction when it fails. (remember what is being rejected not “you”
3. Monitor and protect your self-esteem
4. when negative thoughts taking over disrupt them with distraction.
5. Find meaning in loss
6. Don’t let excuse guilt linger.
7. Learn what treatment your emotions
Be aware of how to react to a rejection. Don’t let the rejection put you into a negative spiral remember you have a spring inside you unleash its power to get you to a better place.
Psychologists who study rejection say that the first reaction to rejection is indicated by how you will end up handling it. so don't take it personally
rejection is part of game
What to do after rejection?
Something I learned from Nick Bollettieri is the most famous tennis coach. Someone asked what makes a tennis champion?
he said the following,
- Believe in yourself because if you don't believe in yourself no one else will
- you must surround yourself with a support system.
- No matter how good you are you must consider adjustments.
- Passion not to be one of the best, but to be the very best
Like successful sports persons and sportswomen, don't let rejection kill your spirit. Learn to process rejection better. build ways of recovering from it.
Why seek rejection
In the article Seek Rejection by Robert D. Smith says that there are clearly five reasons you should seek rejection.
- Makes you fearless
Seeking rejection makes you fearless you are ready to face “NO” as many as third and forth times a day in your job or from Venture capital investor. Can you train yourself to face rejection
2. Makes you do something
seeking rejection forces you to do something if takes out of the equation it becomes easier to take action and not procrastinate.
3. Strengthens all parts of your life.
Seeking rejection will strengthen all parts of your life. it is impossible to be fearless in only your work life. Your sense of fearlessness will creep into other parts of your life. You will become a fearless friend ready to help others and take the risk.
4. Makes you motivated
You will feel massively motivated. imagine facing multiple rejections yet accepting it with a smile. Nothing will demotivate you anymore, you are hyper-charged all the time.
5. Leads to a more beautiful life
finally, he says that when you seek rejection, you will end up becoming rich both monetarily and in life.
you can see rejection as a game OR you can see rejection as a need to review
I do hope this article has given you some tips on how to manage rejection, developed resilience, and grit so you can always be busy and happy in life.
summing up-
- Rejection is part of life.
- Try to anticipating and accept rejection as easy as possible
- be focused on what you do but, be ready to face rejection
- Develop your internal system, be ready to spring back
- Always remember rejection is not the end of the road
- The ability to handle rejection is the single biggest differentiator for success
- If you can accept and process rejection, you will no longer face depression
- look back and see what was rejected is it an idea or you.
- The way to change the game is to change the frame
- Never give up!
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